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Love – this word was much misunderstood so far owing to excessive focus on sexual attraction, melodrama, pain and sorrow being depicted in media in connection with relationships. Through a rise in spiritual awareness, people are now realizing the difference between superficial relationships and the real deal. Here are ten clear differences between the two to help you enhance true love in your life:

  1. Not Desire but Compassion: Love is free of desire because it focuses on giving and not on what you can get. Its based on caring for each other emotionally and connecting spiritually as one soul. This develops a genuine base for the relationship, beyond the bio-chemical rush that is sometimes mistaken for love.
  2. Not Fear but Trust: In a shallow relationship you would be afraid of losing someone because of insecurities. These fears are based on experiences where you are unable to trust your partner. In real love we let go of insecurities and feel relaxed. There is no need to control the partner because you can intuitively sense that all is well.
  3. Not for Social reasons but for Togetherness: A false relationship is built on external foundations, whether to please your family or display your status in society or to boost your ego through your choice of partner. Real love cares for being together and sharing a personal bond with no interest in external show.
  4. Not Careless but Loyal: In a casual relationship partners can easily betray each other as they do not care enough to take responsibility for making the relationship successful. Those who invest in a real relationship take good care not to hurt each other’s feelings and respect the sanctity of the relationship.
  5. Not Hurting but Healing: They say if it doesn’t hurt it is not love. This could not be further from truth. Love does not hurt – it heals. Real love is about a deep soul connection with your partner, knowing that you are reflected in each other. It is an opportunity to heal and soothe our lifetimes of pain by learning how to nourish each other and our own self as one.
  6. Not Needy but Content: In a false relationship there is a constant need for something or someone to complete you. In real love you know you have anchored yourself in relationship where you are more than enough and not constantly looking for something or someone new. You feel complete in yourself.
  7. Not Compromising but Uplifting: It is a myth that you have to meet each other half-way by letting go of your values and cherished dreams so that you can be together. In true love both partners uplift each other and themselves to greater levels in career, finances, spiritual awareness, health and in every possible aspect of life.
  8. Not Sacrifice but Abundance: Love, thy name is sacrifice – right? In-fact you could not be more wrong. Love is all about abundance. Love recognizes that all of us can have unlimited happiness and all good things. None of us need to sacrifice our own good for the other person’s good. In-fact the more you give the more you are given by the universe. You are never left poor in love.
  9. No Guilt or Hate but Forgiveness: In superficial relationships we are afraid to express each other and pent up our emotions lest we should hurt our partner. In a real relationship you can be free of guilt knowing that complete honesty is possible without attracting hate or wrath. Both you and your partner value the qualities of forgiveness while learning the lessons consciously in every experience.
  10. Not Selfish but Unconditional: It is not love if you want something from someone. In love you love just because of love. You are not always counting what you are getting in return or thinking about how someone should please you. Both partners are spiritually awakened and able to find inner peace without loading each other with expectations. Unconditional love is not hard to find if you have it within yourself first.loveswatiprakash  Swati Prakash is a spiritual author and can be followed on www.amazon.com/author/swatiprakash
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