We all create our own sorrows as a way of learning and growing towards the light. Our pain draws attention to those suppressed or repressed parts of ourself that need healing. While some people are constantly stuck in the same unhappy situations, others move on transformed, healed and awakened. What is the difference?

1. Unhappy people keep thinking about their suffering and want someone (else) to help them. They love talking about their past with everyone they meet because it is necessary for them to attract sympathy and emotional support but they often find that people are not always equipped to help them in concrete ways. They also haunt religious places seeking answers to their prayers through a deity outside them and feel excited or frustrated when it coincidentally ‘works’ or does not. What they really need is the right inner work to begin transforming their situation. The right spiritual perspective would be scientific and self empowering. Therapies to heal the past patterns from within help realize our own karma through which we created our situation. To focus on learning how to manifest a better situation through our own energetic shift would be much more helpful than looking around.

2. Unhappy people feel they are victims of jealousy, attacks and conspiracies. Their energy is constantly drained in seeking confirmation that they have indeed been manipulated, targeted and made scapegoats by each and everyone, whether their own family, friends or systems of the world. If you have not yet been blamed by them for any of their miseries you soon will! Happy people in contrast look within themselves to realize that the people and systems that they attract into their life are somehow deeply connected to their level of consciousness. They understand that the universe is within them and all of their unconscious parts are exposed in the form of the collective that sometimes seems dysfunctional or limiting. These enlightened people are able to raise the consciousness of individuals or masses by their light, thereby transforming those very systems that others kept blaming all the time.

3. Unhappy people enjoy reading negative, controversial news and gossip to feed their mind with information and are eager to share those on social media and in personal interactions. Often these stories become what ‘everyone is talking about’ in social circles around the world. Media highlights the most negative stories even more because they know what catches the public fancy and adds to their circulation. Happy people on the other hand are aware that there are infinitely more positive things to be grateful for and a lot of really good people with inspiring stories to share. If they see or read a negative story their focus is on how they can personally shift the energy of the situation through their inner power, by sending healing or manifesting change and not just looking around for someone else to fix the situation. They believe in themselves.

4. Unhappy people seek to fill their emptiness with meaningless relationships, false friends, unhealthy and excess food, unecessary shopping and other addictions. They try to enhance their self worth through their looks, labels, wealth, certifications or popularity to help them project a better image or status outwardly. They are unable to enjoy space, silence, nature, or their own presence. Happy people on the other hand choose minimalism over excess. They know that ‘less is more’ and that they only need so much that they actually require for optimal living, whether in real estate, wardrobe, refrigerator, newsfeeds, inbox messages, edicational degrees or bank balance. Gaining consciousness and being self content is tremendously more satisfying than acculumating things or knowledge.

5. Unhappy people would love fatalism, prophecies, predictions and psychic readings to give them definitive answers. They want to be told what their future is, as if it were happening outside them. They feel unsure, incapable or undeserving of the power to manifest their own destiny, so much so that they judge others who believe in their inner power. Happy people love being centered in the creative spirit within them. They know that the universal life force energy does not flow from outside but from the universe within. They are aware of how each person or thing in their life is projected through their inner consciousness. They have seen the power of creative visualization in action through their own practice and do not require external proof.

6. Unhappy people are afraid to upgrade their beliefs. They hold on to the known because it is comfortable for them. They hang out with the same people they are accustomed to especially based on caste, race, religion, looks or social status. They watch the same senseless television shows and read the same quality of books just to follow the crowd. As a result their consciousness remains at the same level for a very long time. Happy people on the other hand manifest the next higher level of being. They attract more bliss and peace instead of everything else.

7. Unhappy people label themselves as ‘unhappy’. Their belief that they are unhappy people attracts more unhappiness to them. They speak of being unhappy as their present condition as if they have no choice. A happy person has been very unhappy in the past, sometimes even till today or perhaps even until this very moment. They may have suffered greatly, but gain awareness in the present moment to choose happiness right now. They accept their suffering as a catalyst for inner awakening. They trust that somehow from right now onwards, they can and will initiate at least some form of change. Through this scientific faith they begin to unfold a truly happy life from this moment forward.